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Adoption Poster Child
A good idea or a bad idea?
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Finding a kindergarten for a multiracial family
Teachers, administrators, and staff of a school district need cultural competency training. This is not a concern just for me as a parent of children of color, but a need for all the students served by the district.
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The Racism Radar - I have always wondered why a boisterous group of white teens on the metro are kids being kids, and a boisterous group of black teens is a potentially dangerous mob.
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Why do we expect adoptees to be grateful?
Article by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Margie Perscheid
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How do we parent to eliminate bullying from our culture?
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Should adoptive parents change their childrens names?
Article by Anti-Racist Parent columnist Dawn Friedman
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How can you coach kids to be critical of what they see on TV?
Article by Carmen Van Kerckhove
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Should white parents adopt children of other races?
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"Ethnic" Barbie dolls.
Are they really ethnic if they are all modelled on the white Barbie?
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10 Do's and Don'ts for transracially adoptive parents.
by Anti-Racist Parent Columnist Michelle Myers
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11 tips for white parents with adopted children of color
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A Slur By Any Other Name
A racist joke is racist
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Adopting and Adapting
When my husband and I decided to adopt we put on our happy "never have done this before and don't know what's in store" faces and told our caseworker that we didn't care about race. We told her that we just wanted a healthy baby girl and that was it.
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Adoptism, Racism and 'The Prophet'
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Ain't No Shame in Saying That I'm Asian
It's far from my dream as a mother of a biracial daughter and an Asian son to have either of them enter into their adulthood thinking, believing, announcing and celebrating that they are white.
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Animated Oppression
'Difference' is a common theme in so family friendlt Disney films, and unfortunately, the overwhelming take-home message is that difference is not good. At best, it's a major hurdle to overcome.
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Black children adopted into a white society. Where does the racism end?
Are my church’s actions influenced by racial prejudice?
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Dating: The Next Generation
Does a white boyfriend really have to understand racism?
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Do I need to travel to China?
The dreaded question that all Asian Americans have had to answer and that most of us hate: “Where ARE you from? Which country?” as if USA is too hard to comprehend.
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Do "white schools" make white kids racist?
Do children use race to socially exclude other children from their groups?
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Does it do more harm than good to prepare kids for discrimination?
Will it make them anxious about a possibly hostile world or will they be armed with defences against discrimination?
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Drive-by Culture - People ask me all the time for a "top 10" list of suggestions or rules that are must-do's regarding transracial adoption...
Article by Jae Ran Kim
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Ebony and Ivory = Perfect Harmony in the Dorm Room?
"As someone who attended a majority white Midwestern college as a student of color, I found that my presence in the dorm often shocked and surprised fellow students, as I did not fulfill their preconceived notions of blackness."
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Exploring African Diaspora adoptee identity
I recently met an African American woman who was really interested when I told her I had adopted from Ethiopia.
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Food for thought: The ultimate cultural appropriation
"I have a little pendant that I've worn for many years. It's tiny thing, a little gold filigree oval with the word omoni, which is Korean for mother, in the center."
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How do I respond to a sister who demeans my biracial daughter?
I have a problem. I have a beautiful 22-month-old biracial daughter. My sister has said that she's employing “out of sight out of mind” so if their daughter doesn't see my daughter then she won't be “exposed to the product of an interracial relation
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How do I talk to my child’s teacher about racism in the classroom?
I am Spanish, living in the UK with my white British husband and our two children, a birth son aged 7 and a daughter adopted from China who is now 4.
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How do/should I confront my aunt about a racist e-mail?
I’m white looking mixed-race and I am adopted. I married a woman that’s Puerto Rican and black, and we have a mixed-race daughter. Today, an aunt of mine, on my adopted mom’s side, sends my wife a forwarded e-mail containing a racist "joke".
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How to incorporate diversity when living in a mostly white area?
How to naturally mix-it-up culturally when you're living somewhere that's mostly white?
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Is adoption the antithesis to oppression?
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Is it ok for parents to adopt transracially to solve their own racial hangups?
Read about African-American televangelist Reverend Creflo Dollar's reason for adopting a caucasian child.
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Is my wife making too much of our adopted child's race?
My wife and I are adopting a little infant girl from Ethiopia. My wife has read 35 books, spends hours in adoption related chat rooms, has taken courses on caring for black kids' hair and skin etc. Suffice it to say she is really committed.
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Is there a measureable benefit to raising my child in a diverse environment?
I’m a parent of a young transracially adopted Asian child, and we have to decide where to send him to school...
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It's YOUR fault if we offended you.
By now, pretty much everyone knows the story of the Spanish and Argentine teams who thought it might be cute to do a little yellow face for the press.
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Making me a liar: responding to intrusive questions about my children
How do you respond to intrusive questions like "Are they all yours?" or "Are some of your children adopted?"
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Not Exactly Diverse
How diverse does a school need to be to be diverse? Will a few minority children be enough or is a greater mix neccessary for minority children to feel safe and at ease.
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Race is Not a Four Letter Word
Whose responsibility is it to teach your adopted child about racism?
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Should I apologize when someone doesn't notice my racism?
I'm wondering about the etiquette of calling myself out/apologizing when I hear something racist come out of my mouth, especially to a person of color, when the person I am speaking to either doesn't catch it or doesn't feel comfortable saying anything.
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Some Books for White People Adopting Black Children
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Surviving and thriving as a student of color at a less than diverse university
Whether you're an international student, a big-city kid heading to a small-town university or pretty much anyone used to a certain level of diversity, adjusting to an environment that lacks the ethnic variety you are used to can be a difficult experienc
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Taking Control
When is an adopted child free to explore his or her own identity, and not the one which is bound up in the parents?
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Teaching Diversity in a Diversity-Free Zone
It occurs to me that my we traded something important to get a suburban one-acre lot with a fenced in backyard. We traded the rhythm and texture of urban life, including the kind of multicultural existence that raises racial consciousness.
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The elephant in the living room. Are we born racist?
Prejudice might be hardwired in our brains. But the good news is that we can learn to override our prejudices and embrace difference.
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The Princess Problem: "There's more than one way of being pretty."
Does Cindarella have dark skin? Could Snow-white be Asian?
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The Subtle Choice of Words and Their Not So Subtle Messages
What do people really mean when they ask "Is that your own child?"
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The Wrong Kind of Asian
"Are you sure you're not a figure skater? I mean, you are Asian."
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Tintin in the Congo
Not racist because the book is a reflection of the times?
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Tools for Teaching in a Diversity-Free Zone
How to teach, expose, and experience diversity in a "diversity-free" zone
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What a Picture Is Worth
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What am I first? Am I Puerto Rican FIRST or am I Filipino FIRST?
Honey, you are not something FIRST, you are both ALL THE TIME.
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What should I do about my daughter thinking that "white babies are better"?
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When Adoption Goes Wrong (Disruption and Dissolution)
People all over the world are talking about the return of an adopted Korean child by a Dutch diplomat and his wife.
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When parents disrupt or dissolve an adoption
When a person adopts a child and then disrupts/dissolves that adoption, they are re-traumatising the child and should accept full responsibility for that. Sometimes, overall, it is to the child's best interest that the adoption is dissolved or disrupted.
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When saying nothing is the best you can do
"Good parenting isn't what you do in the moment, it's what you give your child over time. Good parenting is also, I'm learning as a relatively new mom, a lot of trial and error."
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Where can I find a bible with racially realistic portrayals?
Every illustrated bible I've seen has images that remake biblical characters in the image of the primary reader. I haven’t come across many bibles, but I have yet to see one that makes an effort in historical, racial accuracy in its illustrations.
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White Noise: White Adults Raising White Children To Resist White Supremacy
This baby I carried inside of me, at this point no bigger than a knucklebone, was going to be privileged with a capital "P".
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Who Belongs Where in a World Full of Differences?
How to explain and deal with matching games for young children.
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Who's following whose lead?
"I must admit, I cringe just a little bit every time I hear an adoptive parent say they plan to follow their child's lead when it comes to addressing the different aspects in adoption."
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Why do you want to know where I'm from?
What's the difference between "institutional racism" and "individual discrimination"
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Why Oh Why Are These T-Shirts Still Available?
What is the problem with t-shirts saying: "I AM the real mum!", "Forgive me, I'm paper pregnant" or "Growing in my heart, expectant adoptive mother"? Harmless fun or offensive?
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Windows and mirrors
“Other people are the mirror in which we see ourselves.”
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